Sexting and Sexual Exploitation
Internet Safety Lessons
Lesson 1 - Mental Wellbeing
Lesson 7 - Online Safety Response
Lesson 8 - Online Safety Response
Lesson 1- Online Safety and Cyberbullying
Lesson 2 - Staying Safe Online
Lesson 3 - Online Images
Lesson 4 - Sexting
Lesson 5 - Sexting and Sexual Abuse
Lesson 6 - Sexual Exploitation
Lesson 7 - Cyberbullying Debate
Lesson 8 - Re-cap of Topic
The Internet can be a wonderful resource because we can use it to:
Communicate with friends and family;
Listen to music;
Research topics of interest
Play games, etc
But that access can also pose hazards and we must be careful. There are many dangers online. These include:
Cyberbullying: Threats, gossip, insults, intimidation and abuse.
Inappropriate content: Pornography and violence.
Privacy violation: Invasion of your own space, sharing your personal information and photos.
Data theft: Someone stealing your personal information (names, addresses, bank details) usually through fake emails and websites.
Online predators: People who try to establish a close relationship with young people so they can blackmail, abuse or even kidnap their targets in the real world.
Your digital footprint is the information which a complete stranger can find out about you by searching online. Try googling yourself and change your privacy settings so that only your friends and family can see what you post. See your teacher or a trusted adult if you do not know how to do this. Things people can find out about you include:
public posts and comments on social networking sites
discussions or arguments you’ve been in
reviews you’ve posted of films or music
videos or images you are named or tagged in
The online world is a public place. If you share something online you may not have full control over who sees it or what happens to it. If people search for your name or a nickname you use, a lot of what you post online could be found. People could copy, share or discuss things you've posted.
Things we don’t do in real life
Hand out pictures of ourselves to strangers.
Give our personal details to strangers (address, telephone number, pictures of your house, family, etc).
Stalk your friends in real life.
So why have such behaviours become acceptable online? What is the difference then between our ONLINE lives and our REAL lives? Think about this.
3 things to remember when posting online
The internet is an open space
If you post something publicly anyone can find it. If you share something you only want your friends to see, think about how your family, teachers and classmates might react
Things you post online can be copied, saved or shared by other people
Even if you change your mind and delete things they may have saved copies. Think about whether a friends-only post on a social networking website would be better than a public one
Personal insults, threats or discrimination online can get you into trouble with the law
This can happen even if you mean it as a joke. Think carefully before you post angry things online. It might help to write down your feelings on a piece of paper instead or taking a break from being online until you're feeling less angry. Meeting a friend, listening to music, reading or playing sport can help to get the angry feelings out without actually posting them.
When you're out there in cyberspace, watch yourself and don't believe everything you see online.
Don’t enter into conversation with people you don’t know because you like the banter. This can lead to serious consequences very fast.
Be very careful of the people in your ears during online gaming. Don’t believe everything they tell you unless they are your real life friends who your parents know.
Your business is your business. Trust your instincts. If someone asks too many questions or makes you feel uncomfortable, leave.
If you get suspicious e-mails, files, or pictures from someone you don't know and trust, trash them just like any other junk mail. The same goes for clicking links or URLs that look suspicious - don't do it.
Don't let people online trick you into thinking of them as real-life friends if you've never met them in person.
If you go looking for trouble on the Internet, you'll find it, and things can get out of control really fast.
Cyberbullying is using the internet, email, online games or any digital technology to threaten, tease, upset or humiliate someone else.
Cyberbullying can happen on a number of online platforms including text messaging, email, online gaming, social networking sites and online grooming.
What do you do if you are being cyberbullied?
Record the messages. Keep a record of the bullying messages you receive – a hard copy, screen shots or a diary of the abuse that you have suffered so that you can show an adult.
Reach out. Do not suffer alone. Speak to someone that you trust (for example a parent or a teacher). You can also get free confidential help from ChildLine online or by calling 0800 1111.
Cut off the bully. Block their phone number so you no longer receive their calls or texts. All social media companies and websites have the facility to report abuse and block unwanted people. Your teacher will show you information on the most popular sites which you can read by accessing this PowerPoint via your teacher’s Google Classroom site. You will have time to look at these in the next lesson if needed.
What not to do
Sink to the bully’s level. Responding to the bully may only encourage them. Starting a similar cyberbullying term against the perpetrator will get you nowhere.
Forward bullying content or messages. Even if you trust a friend, forwarding messages can only expand the problem. Once you send it you have no control over where it is going.
Believe the bully. Cyberbullies’ cowardly and destructive actions are often more about their own problems than they are about the hurt to you. Do not let them destroy your self-esteem. When bullying gets you down, talk to someone that you trust. No one deserves to be harassed.
When people talk about sexting, they usually mean sending and receiving:
Naked pictures or 'nudes'
Sexual or 'dirty pics'
Rude text messages or videos.
They can be sent to or from a friend, boyfriend, girlfriend or someone you've met online. Sexting can easily happen. Things can go wrong – even when you didn't mean for them to.
What could happen to it and who might see it?
Once you press send, it is no longer in your control. It can be posted anywhere on the internet. Remember the online safety advice given last week – Think before you post.
Don't send anything you wouldn't want your parents, teachers or friends seeing. Even if you completely trust someone, other people using their phone might accidentally see it or screenshot it.
Think: Once you press SEND, the control of who sees, edits and passes this on is out of your hands.
What are the risks and why does the person want you to send this?
Even if you use a webcam or an app like Snapchat, the person can take a screen shot. in seconds.
Think: Even if you really trust or love someone, they might be under pressure from their friends to take a picture. You must think about where such images could be passed to and the effect this can have on your life.
Why would someone you love make you pass on something you later have no control of? How does this empower you? If you want to impress somebody, you can do it in other ways. In most cases, sexting can have the opposite effect and you could be seen as somebody you're not.
Think: All Social Media creates a false impression of someone’s life. Think about how easy it is to exaggerate your life online.
You may trust the person you are passing your images to but do you really have trust in the internet? Think about what we discussed last week. Online predators are a threat which you must protect yourself from.
Is sexting legal?
When you’re under 18 it’s against the law for anyone to take or have a sexual photo of you – even if it’s a selfie.
This means that if you pressure someone into taking a photo or you share a sexual photo with someone, you’re breaking the law. The police have the power to decide whether it’s for the best to record what’s happened or to take things further. But the law is there to protect young people, not punish them.
If you’re worried about speaking to the police or if someone’s pressuring you to send a sexual photo, you can talk to a ChildLine counsellor or your Guidance teacher.
Childline offer advice about sexting because…
They know how sexting can easily happen and the sorts of worries you might have
They understand that you might be under a lot of pressure - it's OK to make mistakes
They're not here to judge or get you into trouble
They won't tell anybody else what has happened
They're not easily shocked by what you tell us
They don’t make you go into detail if you don't want to. Instead, they will listen and support you in making the situation better.
•There is an increasing risk of young people being groomed as a result of online gaming.
•BE VERY CAREFUL of who you are talking to online. While you may spend a significant amount of time with them and build trust you don’t have a way of knowing who is at the other end of your headset.
•10.7 million people in the UK play games online with 74% of 6-10 year olds playing video games. Be careful of who you or your siblings are talking to.
The 4 stages of grooming (online or in real life)
3.Loving Relationship Stage
4.Abusive Relationship Stage
The Targeting Stage
•Observing the child/young person
•Selection of the child/young person
•Befriending – being nice, giving gifts, caring, taking an interest, giving compliments
•Gaining and developing trust
•Sharing information about young people between other abusive adults
At this stage the abusive adult is choosing which child or young person to work on and beginning to manoeuvre them into a situation where they can increase their contact with the child. It may happen quickly or over some time – in a public place, online or in private. Abusive adults are more likely to approach a child who looks vulnerable. They may be on their own, look unhappy or not be in school. They also choose children who are sexualised in their behaviour, looking for signs like giving lots of eye contact and smiles to strangers or drawing lots of attention to themselves. Abusive adults often share young people’s information – mobile numbers, pictures, etc so the child can be contacted by their associates.
Making young people feel special
Giving gifts and rewards
Spending time together
Listening and remembering
Being there for them
‘No one understands you like I do’ – being their best friend
Testing out physical contact – accidental touch
The abusive adult puts a lot of effort into becoming important to the child – someone to rely on. In this way, the adult develops a strong influence. If an adult ever says not to tell anyone what you are doing or where you are going with them you should be very careful and report them. Be aware of an adult ‘understanding you more than anyone else’ and bad mouthing the adults you trust (parents, carers, etc) to gain your trust. An abusive adult will often offer a young person protection. This technique is particularly used with children who are being bullied for example.
The Loving Relationship Stage
•Being their boyfriend/girlfriend
•Establishing a sexual relationship
•Lowering their inhibitions – for example, showing them pornography
•Engaging them in forbidden activities – for example, going to clubs, drinking, taking drugs
•Being inconsistent – building up hope and then punishing them
The most common grooming method used with young people is to become their ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend.’ However, this stage can also be a close, protective, non-sexual relationship. What the methods have in common is that from inside, it looks and feels like a very caring and genuine relationship. But while developing the illusion of intimacy and love, the abusive adult is gaining full control of the young person and making them very vulnerable.
The Abusive Relationship Stage
•Becomes an ‘unloving’ sexual relationship
•Withdrawal of love and friendship
•Reinforcing dependency on them – stating that the young person is ‘damaged goods’
•Isolation from friends and family
•Trickery and manipulation – ‘you owe me’
•Threatening behaviour and physical violence
•Making them have sex with other people
•Giving them drugs
•Playing on the young person’s feeling of guilt, shame and fear.
At this stage it is clear that something bad is happening. Techniques of control and isolation become obvious but because the adult has made the young person depend on them it is very hard for them to get away. The more trapped and isolated the young person is, the crueller the adult can afford to be.